While making my way back to the east coast, I spent time with my parents, my in-laws, and my grandmother, Annie. Annie’s arthritis has made crafting difficult, so when I found this product, Quilt Magic, at the Phoenix Quilt, Craft and Sewing Festival, I knew she would love it. It’s not typical Nikki, In Stitches style, but the smile on my Annie’s face when she was able to create something all on her own for the first time in years, filled me with such warmth and pride, I knew I had to share just some of her story. I was able to give her just a few hours of happiness, when she’s given me a lifetime of love and memories that have made me the woman I am. Annie has a very special place in my heart, and I hope that what I write today gives you just a glimpse of the extraordinary lady she is.
I like to think that I get all of my best qualities from Annie, of course her amazing crafting skills, but also her sense of humor, her pride in her family, and her dedication and passion to everything she does. On the other hand, I also get my stubbornness from her and the unfortunate shape of my thighs. Annie will be 88 this fall, and her body is certainly not in ideal condition, but her mind is as sharp as ever. She is the only woman I know that can make a hospital room full of doctors and nurses, attempting to deliver distressing news, roar with laughter.
Annie has shown me how to be a lady, how to be a wonderful mother, and how to be a loving wife, even though I’ve actually never known her as a married woman. My grandfather died years before I was born, leaving Annie to raise her six children on her own. When I was much younger, I would ask her about my grandfather, and question what it was like for her to be on her own for so long. Her responses always left me in awe. She would tell that there was never a day in the last thirty-something years that she was ever on her own. She feels my grandfather with her everyday, and each night she dreams of him. She tells him about her day, she asks his advice on how to handle situations with her children, and she feels his arms around her every morning when she wakes up.
A few years ago, I read a study that said senior citizens in relationships live longer than those that are single. I immediately went on the hunt, looking for a boyfriend for my Annie. When I told her I was searching for her future companion, she informed me that she already had all the man she needed and couldn’t imagine handling two men at the same time.
Annie’s is a love story. Annie is the kind of woman that you can actually feel her love wrap around you when she is with you. She has such an abundance of love and she is so willing to love everyone and everything. Her love for her children, her grandchildren, and her great-grandchildren is awe inspiring. Her love for her friends and her willingness to help them in any way she can is truly inspirational.
Recently, my mother-in-law sent me an email forward titled “Grandma’s Hands.” I have a rule that I never forward chain emails, and I usually delete them, sometimes before even reading them, but this one touched me. It talked about all the trials and tribulations that a grandmother’s hands have been through, ups and downs, falls, tears, smiles, etc. I couldn’t help but think of it as I watched Annie work on her sunflower. I looked at her hands, old and tired, knuckles curled with arthritis, and thought of how warm they always felt when they rubbed my back. I remembered them pointing to the words of the first book I ever read. I could see them holding a wooden spoon, stirring a huge pot of vegetable soup. I could feel them holding my hands the morning I got married, and hear her telling me how beautiful I looked. I could see them holding my son, and I thought to myself, I hope he gets to know the Annie that I know. The Annie that is my inspiration everyday of my life. The Annie that has taught me to give all that I have to everything I can, and have faith that one day it will come back to me. The Annie that shows me what true love really is. My Annie.
I love you, Annie.
Nikki, In Stitches
A special thank you to the man that sold me Quilt Magic in Phoenix. I do not know your name, and I’m sure you talked to many people that day and probably don’t remember me, but you brought a light back to my grandmother’s eyes and I am forever grateful.
You already know how I love this!! Again today I keep finding myself going back and reading it over and over and crying more everytime. You are so lucky to have her but take this from someone who knows and had a grandmother alot like yours…you will always have her even when shes not here, when you need help with something in life your will find yourself talking to her and somehow you will find your answer. She will always be YOUR ANGEL
Nikki thank you so much for sharing Annie, she is an awesome woman (grandmother) that you are very blessed to have. It is very obvious that she has sewn much, much love into your heart to carry on for generations.
Thank you so much for leaving a comment. It was a very emotional post to write, and a lot of times it was hard for me to read what I was typing through my tears, but I really wanted people to know how special she is. I still don’t know if I did her justice!
victoria binggeli says
what a very sweet and thought provoking blog about your annie. i had an “auntie anne” in my life who i still think about so fondly. i can see nikki not only do you do math problems well but you write well too!!
Nikki…thanks for visiting my little blog! And thank you for the lovely story about Annie. Our dear oldies (as I call my grandparents) hold years of love for us in their hearts, don’t they? And, yeah (!) for Quilt Magic!! It brought sore hands back to life.
You do not know me but I am a friend of another woman in your life and through her portrayal of Annie, I feel in some small way, honored to be exposed (in a very small way) to the strength, humor, and faith that Annie exudes. Doesn’t Annie show us exactly what being a woman in this world means?! I can only imagine the wealth of character that Annie has given you all and that in itself is quite a gift and legacy. A true mark of a person’s existence is what is left behind when they are gone – her love for you is evident as is your love and respect for her – The ultimate gift, don’t you think?
I am enjoying your blog – keep up the good work!!!
julie gasparro says
absolutely so beautifully written!! what an amazing and loving tribute to your grandmother! god bless you, nikki! xoxoxo
Dolly Nolder says
Dear Nikki: How wonderful…that was an absolutely wonderful tribute to your Grandmother. It is gratifying to know that you appreciated all of her attention to your life and learned from it all. She was a lucky Grandmom to have you…and of course you will appreciate her for the rest of your life. Keep her close to your heart for she will always be there. Good thoughts and prayers are coming your way.
What a beautiful tribute to your Grandmother–she was quite the lady! I will keep you all in my prayers.
Sarah Walker, International Superstar says
What a lovely post. Thank you for sharing Annie with us, just reading this made me feel some of the love she brought to you!
P.s. It’s funny, as a kid, I was obsessed with my grandmother’s hands and had the same reaction when someone sent me that email. It’s incredible how much life our hands can carry!
Nicolle-Libby Lane Press says
This warms my heart and something tells me sweet Annie is looking down with a smile on her face and finally getting the chance to hold her husband’s hand again.
Thank you, everyone, so very, very much.
These last few days have been the hardest of my life.
I hope you know how sincerely I appreciate all of your sweet words.
I am lucky to have all of you. Your love and support have meant the world to me.
Beautiful post. It warmed my heart and brought tears to my eyes. So sorry for your loss. xo
I lost “my Annie” a few weeks back, and your post has hit home! You Annie is adorable and her courage and resilience, character and the love of your post have brought tears to my eyes…
What an example, inspiration and blessing to have her by your side! Thanks for sharing!! XOXO
I am so, so sorry. I am sending you all my love.
Thank you for your sweet words.